- start with what I want in all areas of my life
- look at my values, priorities, desired feelings, to see what is in alignment with who I am
- My Big choices : make a list of what was NOT fun, or came out in a good way + what I want to do different next time
- Finally, apply what I’ve gathered from above and start making a list of what I’d like to offer + do this coming year. How I want it to feel, look, and flow.
Wow, so many emails + events going on relating to creating + manifesting what you want in 2017!
How was your 2016? Bring everything you wanted into fruition?
If you’re not feeling awesome about how your last year turned out, you are not alone. 2016 might have been a bit disappointing for many of us. It was a 9 year in numerology which is all about letting go and wrapping up loose ends to finish things so that you’re ready for your 1 year. 2017 rings in the beginning of a 1 year, full of starting new things, innovating, and breaking out on your own to be your own kind of success. A big part of creating a successful 2017 is knowing where you are going, what you want, and what you need to do to get there.
Lately I’ve seen many offers for a vision board process that can help you get clear. Vision boards can be great at helping you get clear on what you want to create. But if you are like me, you’ve created a vision board and only a few things actually came about (if any), falling short of your intentions + expectations. Which can feel rather disappointing considering all the work hours you put into them, yes?
Why? Vision boards will only take you so far in the manifesting process. Even if you are clear on what you want to create in your business, your life, and your relationships, there are several components you need in this recipe to create the success you’re after.
Creating or manifesting something is actually made up of 3 things: thoughts, feelings + actions.
Your thoughts are how you think about what you want to do/create: is this a doable plan for me? Can I stay focused? Is it simple? Do these things inspire me? By answering these few questions, you can gauge your ability to make these things happen.
How you feel about what you want to create also has a heavy hand in manifesting what you really want. Do the actions you have planned feel good, right, doable? If not, then it’s back to the drawing board, so to speak. If they don’t feel right and good down to your soul, then you are going to struggle to make them happen.
Now, what actions do you take to get there? My answer to that is simple: what are you feeling pulled to do? What is popping up in your head when you think of sharing your gifts with your tribe? When are you feeling pushed or pressured to do something in particular? That is a sign something is not right: it could be your timing, your tactic, or your intention. Step back, and re-evaluate before you put what you are creating out there.
So, what are you missing? And, why isn’t it working?
You crave manifesting all this amazing stuff in your business + life, right? So what’s holding you up? If you’re not feeling the vision board process, I have something else that might work for you: a more intuitive approach.
First, trust that you are already wired to be successful. It’s inside of you already even though you might not be aware of it yourself. It is an essential first step in creating what you want. What surprises me is the number of coaching programs, trainings, and online courses that assume you already know it all when you don’t. If you want help discovering this for yourself, click here.
By knowing who you are, how you work, and what you are here to do, you have the unique ability to make decisions that feel good, to see the opportunities in front of you, and create the business life you really want. This is the core, or soul, of who you are, and it is what influences everything that you create. Then, all you need bring your ideas to fruition is to have are these 3 things: clarity, a focused plan, and aligned action steps.
When you don’t know these 3 things, you will have a year full of distractions, missed opportunities, and bad decisions which often directly affect your flow of income, energy, and happiness (success).
First step: Is to get clear. If you don’t know what you want + where you are going, how are you going to know what actions to take or opportunities to accept?
A few questions to get you started: What is it that you really want to create in your business this year? In your life? What would make you happy?
Make a list.
Next step: get focused.
Want more on how to stay focused and take aligned actions?
Stay tuned for our next blog with action steps to get focused and stay on point so you keep moving towards being Super Successful creating your Soul-satisfying Business!
We’ll see you there!
Intuition or Instinct? Which one do you trust more? Which one do you act on more?
I had an interesting question the other day from a client, so I thought I would answer it here. I thought since she was asking someone else might be curious, too.
Well, my answer is to pay attention to both, but let me tell you why + the difference so you can start to distinguish between the two.
Above all, learn to trust yourself. I know it can be challenging, but only you know what is in your best + highest good. No one else. (Just a friendly public service announcement). So pay attention to your inner guidance first.
Instincts come from your lower “survival” smarts. Some call them your “Gut” instincts because that is exactly it: it comes from your 3rd chakra or your solar plexus, which is yellow and all about your personal will. They are your innate, immediate hit on something feeling right or wrong, safe or not safe. The key word here is automatic or with out thought. Like walking down the street and thinking you will take a short cut, but when you go to turn into a rather secluded alley, you decide, “nope, doesn’t feel right” so you take the longer way. Instincts are there as an automated response to keep you safe, much like your lower ego self.
Now, intuition is something a bit more developed and evolved, and everyone has it. Intuition is an awareness or knowing without reason or explanation. It is something you just know it to be so. Typically, It comes from your 3rd eye, or brow chakra, and has a violet, purple hue. Intuition can be learned consciously as a skill to navigate your life decisions so you can create a life that is flowing and happier, and more fulfilling. You can access your intuition at any time, not just when inspiration strikes, but it takes some guidance, training, and a lot of trust on your part. Some people even start to see their intuitive communication grow to show itself in particular ways like a creative designer seeing inspiration as pictures in their mind. Whenever I design a jewelry piece, I always am inspired and see it first, then I sketch it out for my client. Nicki sees her web designs in her head, the colors, the layout, the look/feel of it. She often sketches them as she is talking to clients, and they are amazed how accurate + insightful she is. Another example is a problem solver, like my techie husband, who just knows this is the solution to the problem at hand and spends his time figuring out how to explain it to the team so everyone see it too.
So, instincts are all about your immediate, automatic response to a situation or a person. Right or wrong, safe or not safe. Your intuition takes that a step further and allows you to ask for guidance at will. Trusting your intuition’s guidance is the next step as you figure out your own intuitive communication style, or how your intuition shows itself to you.
Intuition is a master tool you already have inside you to design your business + create a life you love, you might need a bit of help to learn how to access it + trust it more often. If so, then you are in luck because that’s what we do. We are here to teach + guide you in discovering how to walk your own path more intuitively to create the soul-based business + life you love. Done.
On that note, we would like to invite you to a new Master Class on Honing your Intuitive Style. If you are interested, please take this brief survey so we can design the class to fit who you are + what you need.
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Excerpt from blog of Marc + Angel Hack Life: http://www.marcandangel.com/2013/08/21/10-ways-happy-people-prioritize-their-to-do-lists/
Here are 10 ways to prioritize your life and your to-do lists for increased happiness and fulfillment:
1. One thing at a time, with full presence.
In other words, make the thing you have chosen to do the number one priority while you’re doing it. Focus with your full attention. See the value in where you are, while you’re there. Enjoy what’s happening, while it’s happening.
In the end, you will come to realize that the best days are the days when you don’t need anything extreme or special to happen to make you smile. You simply appreciate the moments and feel gratitude, seeking nothing else, nothing more. That is what true happiness is all about.
2. Family and close friends are at the top.
Nurture your important relationships in such a way that when you tell the people you care about that you care about them, you’re simply reinforcing what they already know based on how you have prioritized them into your life.
Give them your full attention. Let them see their own beauty in your eyes. Let them find their own voice through your listening ears. Help them discover their own greatness in your presence.
Make the people you love a top priority, always.
3. Focus on importance, not urgency.
As Johann Wolfgang von Goethe once said, “Things which matter most must never be at the mercy of things which matter least.”
Truthfully, the most important thing in life is knowing what the most important things in life are, and prioritizing them accordingly. Sadly, most of us spend too much time on urgent things and not enough time on important things.
So do yourself a favor and implement these three action steps every time you’re building or sorting your to-do list:
- Think about the difference between what is urgent and what is important.
- Review all the obligations on your list.
- Do what’s important first.
Sometimes everything on your list will look important, which might be true to an extent. But as you practice prioritizing, you will get better and better at it. And eventually you will know, without question, when to set aside the important things in order to accomplish the vital ones, like spending quality time with loved ones.
4. Keep your efforts aligned with your purpose.
Getting anything worthwhile done is a matter of connecting with why you have chosen to do this thing in the first place.
Don’t allow others to confuse you. Don’t let them convince your heart what is right for you. Your heart already knows. Listen to it. Don’t let anyone else dilute the power of your inner voice. You’ve got to stand up for something specific, on your own two legs, or you will achieve nothing worthwhile in your own mind’s eye.
Within you there is a formidable and undeniable sense of purpose. Happiness comes from making a solid and persistent connection to that purpose. When your intentions are supported by a “why” that has meaning, you will find the “how” to bring them to life.
5. Play to your strengths and delegate when it makes sense.
When it comes to tackling big projects, you can try to do everything yourself, or you can reach out and find the right people to help you. The first choice will raise your stress and blood pressure; the second choice will raise your consciousness and effectiveness.
Choosing the right perspective is so important; you CAN see life’s challenges as opportunities. When an unexpected obstacle is suddenly standing in your way, don’t get overwhelmed. Take a breather and regroup. Someone else nearby knows how to get around it. Find and engage them.
For example, if your website is suddenly having glitches with a new web browser, don’t read a giant book on web design. Hire a professional web designer. See the problem as an opportunity to delegate. Life is trying to teach you that most long-term, worthy endeavors are team efforts, and so much more palatable when shared with others. Every unexpected obstacle in life is a lesson on teamwork in disguise, solvable with the right team of people.
6. Socialize and share with peers.
Regardless of what you’re trying to accomplish, it’s always easier if you have a group of people who understand what you’re doing, why you’re doing it, and what challenges you’re facing. Staying in touch with these people and sharing ideas with them will accelerate your effectiveness and happiness. Best selling author, Seth Godin, refers to these people as your tribe members.
A tribe is a group of people connected to one another via an idea, movement or common goal. For millions of years, human beings have been part of one tribe or another. Godin says, “A group needs only two things to be a tribe: a shared interest and a way to communicate.”
Every single one of us craves the feeling of being part of something bigger than ourselves. By nature, we are tribal, but oftentimes we become disconnected from our tribe. We know our people are out there – somewhere – but we feel lost and disconnected from them. If you’re feeling disconnected, open up to your peers and initiate a conversation. Tap into your tribe.
7. Give what you can, as you seek what you desire.
In many ways, life is a circle – what you put in to it comes back around. When you make a positive impact in the world, the world will have a positive impact on you.
If you want to be rich, be generous. If you want to make friends, be friendly. If you want to be heard, listen. If you want to be understood by others, take the time to truly understand them. If you want to live an interesting life, be interested in the happenings around you.
You won’t always get back exactly what you wanted or expected, but when you give what you can you almost always receive what you need.
8. Leave the past behind as you plan ahead.
Let old problems remain where they belong – in the past. No matter how many times you revisit the past, there’s nothing new to see. Don’t let what once happened get in the way of what is happening. Just because you’ve made mistakes doesn’t mean your mistakes get to make you. If something important didn’t work yesterday, figure out what changes can be made today.
Tame your inner critic; let go and move on productively. You must make a conscious effort to do this, it won’t happen automatically. You will have to rise up and say, “I don’t care how hard this is. I don’t care how disappointed I am. I’m not going to let yesterday’s problems get the best of me. I’m taking the lessons and moving on with my life.”
9. Commit to self-respect, regardless of the issue at hand.
Whenever you catch yourself in a rambling bout of negative self-talk, stop and ask yourself, “If I had a friend who spoke to me in the same way that I sometimes speak to myself, how long would I allow this person to be my friend?”
Remember, the way you treat yourself sets the standard for others, and the world at large, to follow. Above everyone else, YOU deserve YOUR respect. So make sure your decisions, behaviors and actions reflect your self-respect as you carry out your plans. (Angel and I discuss this in more detail in the “Self-Love” chapter of 1,000 Little Things Happy, Successful People Do Differently.)
10. Leave room to breathe.
Things don’t always go as planned. Good things can’t always be planned. Be flexible and open to life’s twists and turns.
Organize, but don’t agonize. Keep your space and time ordered, but your schedule under booked. Create a foundation with a soft place to land, a wide margin of error, and room to think and breathe…
Freeing yourself from an overbooked schedule lets you experience more of life’s good surprises, and also provides you with flexibility when the unforeseen disrupts your foresight.
Afterthoughts ~ Wow, that’s a lot but doable, right?
Which ones do you feel like you are doing? Which ones are you not? Now, pick one you really feel drawn to try + do. Share that below with us and your next step to make that happen.
Closing wishes: Just be yourself + follow your inner guidance. Why? That is the key to making this all work. Create a business that feeds your Soul + fits your life. How? First, know your Soul: who you are deep down, How you work in your highest energy (and not), and what you are here to do (your purpose or path). Then, as you feel happier being you, the other things will feel more natural to you and really start to flow. That’s where the magic happens!
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Well, we feel like we have finally figured it out!
If you are anything like me, you might be tired of investing the time, energy, and money into online courses and not seeing the results you were hoping for….total bummer, right?
We hear you!
We might start out all pumped to try a new course, hoping to achieve the results the instructor promises. We put a bunch of enthusiastic energy into getting it done, then we go to apply it + BAM. Nothing.
Well, this video might explain why this is happening to you, too (our big a-ha moment) + what we found actually works. Plus, we have included the next steps to take, too.
The answer…you gotta get human interaction like support, conversation, passing it by someone who speaks your language.
Simple, right? But it’s something you cannot do by yourself, so we would like to be of help.
If you want us to help you make your online coursework actually get work for you, then let’s chat to see where you are, why things aren’t working and next steps to get you achieving what you really want out of that online course ~ RESULTS!
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